But for a parent who has heard "scary" words from the child, somehow still out there that say the researchers. Mat is one of the evil sides of human communication, despite the fact that many adults say that without Mata Russian speech is like soup without salt.
Don't listen to these originals. First, the Russian language is good and tasty when it is clean and correct, and profanity hard to call right and beautiful. Secondly, cursing obscenities Cord from Leningrad, maybe good that this property, but the child - no in the world - such is not, and this must be fought.
But to fight properly. Here is a small example. Home and quiet boy Alesha brought my grandmother geography, just bought in the store. Shows, explaining - "that's interesting, too, and it's...me." Grandma almost fell into a swoon. Where do cute boy these words? Her favorite child swears mate! It was found out later, when dear Alyosha called a bad word native dad because he accidentally demolish his cubes. Child obzyvaetsya on the native father!
Zabespokoitsya mom was investigated. It was found that acute sayings Alexis got in the garden from Vanya - problem child from a family of alcoholics. It is clear that in these conditions the Mat between the parents is common. So there are basically two cases to which it is accepted to divide the problem of child Mat - when a child obzyvaetsya, copy adults and when he typed "experience" peers" and so the child swears mate.
In the first case, you need to find out who it is from adults detrimental to the child. If, God forbid, you are quickly do some self-control! No one is forcing you to give up the habit, even harmful, but the child in any case not expected to hear.
If the Mat came from peers, more advanced in this matter, spend with a child. Attention: in any case it is not necessary to quarrel and insult a child who swears mate! It may further wish to seem "cool" against you! You must tactfully and very convincingly convey to the child that the Mat is ugly, and unworthy of him as a person. It is with this formulation, the child will feel uncomfortable and don't want to be ashamed.
However, there is an option that a child who swears mate, seroprotected and will bring as evidence the words that his friends all do, and there's nothing terrible. You must convey to the child that mate swears that the Mat is not a symbol of toughness and adulthood, and clogging of speech and just ugly behavior. Try to play on the national consciousness, existing in each person. Tell that person who wants to proudly wear their nationality, must first tactfully and carefully relate to what makes him the person of this ethnicity - language. Believe me, it very often works.
More difficult if the child is guided to some "star" ideal on stage or in film, and with this authority to fight harder baby obzyvaetsya. All the memorable example of socialite Ksyusha Sobchak, who in his transfer other than a Mat and not expressed. Does not help and the post screen squeak - words can be read on articulation. If your child likes Ksyusha, it will not convince that swearing is bad. Here it is not necessary in any case to lash out at criticism of the personality of this most stellar ideal. This may cause the rejection of a child who really loves his idol (let you and it is not clear what). You just have to calmly say: "She is mistaken. Soon she will realize that swear ugly. She swear will not, and you will be. Is it good? "
But first of all, the desire to swear disappears when the child is faced with some higher samples of verbal behavior. Let's get him to read more of the classics, and encourage viewings of popular science and art gear! And, most importantly, communicate to the child that all people in the world know these words and know what they mean, but say them out loud just rude.
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