First, in the "Sex and the city" finally rises theme of female friendship. Typically, the film celebrates the "strong male friendship" with her boyfriend, with whom you can go on patrol". But max, where you can go with a friend, is on sale winter collection, and the only thing that can unite women - happy shopping...
The relationship between women often seem superficial or competitive hiding the catch, as in the saying about the snake and the tortoise. The turtle moves through the snake river. Snake thinks: "Throw - bite". Turtle thinks: "Bite - throw".
But friendships with other women no less important than a relationship with a man. And more successful is not the kind of woman who puts all of himself in love and family, but the one that has the support of her friends. As said in one episode of "Sex and the city" the protagonist: "it's Nice to walk down the street, arm in arm with her beloved man. But sometimes it's just better to go to the cinema with your friends! "
Secondly, themes, despite the title of the film is not limited solely to sex. As for the name, he played a role here "lost in translation": English sex means "sexual intercourse" and "sex" and "gender identity".
Therefore, in the series addressed a variety of questions: is it possible a harmonious relationship with the man below you growth, or it will let you know about them? Whether to show jealousy? If you don't reciprocate, it is better to say it right or just to avoid communication? Can a woman be the first to speak about their feelings?
And finally, attractive images of four heroines, contrasting both externally and internally. But was it not the secret of their popularity on both sides of the ocean that they go back to the archetypal level (deep unconscious)? It's not just the four heroines of the series is four persons who live in each of the women. And important harmony between them is that these internal women were friends, like the heroine of the series....
But each of us can dominate particular person and in choosing we are not free, it is determined by external circumstances that we form. So initially we have and Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda, but some of them play the first role, and the remaining complement. But if one of the roles followed in behind the scenes, it will lead to internal schism...
People never refers to any one psycho - but we can talk about the leading psycho. Perhaps in these women's faces, you will find yourself or someone you know...
Charlotte
"Good girl" is usually the only child from an educated and wealthy family. Different cute, neat, even a little doll-like appearance, perfect manners, has a good education. Voice high, gentle, a little child. In clothing prefers light ("innocent") color creates a romantic image, can adorn themselves with images of butterflies or flowers (hair clips, brooches, tattoo). Polite: never forget to congratulate and will do so in accordance with all the rules of etiquette. Profession chooses close to the beauty and art, or the one where you get a lot of attention (often comes on the scene).
Charlotte - a sort of Princess, not just my favorite, and "Salobrena" their parents. On the one hand, she gets the family a lot of warmth and caring and goes through life with an open heart, giving warmth to others. With the other parents pampered daughter and create excessive demands on the partner. She is waiting not even a handsome Prince on the background of the Pope-king, he will lose by definition: it needs another king, not less...
This psycho is formed at the age of 3 - 4 years, and, in fact, the person remains a child. It has its pros and cons. Strengths "Charlotte": she is kind, sweet, gentle, honest, faithful friend. She has her own ideals (though often naive), the faith in which she does not lose, and its own system of values, which it should.
Cons: infantilism, excessive rigor and evaluative attitude towards others, selfishness. And in addition, received her "proper" education forms the narrowness of vision and interferes with getting a new unusual experience that could be useful.
Who will be her lover? As a joke, it must be a "master of sports Colonel Chingachgook". When it is focused "Charlotte" on the outer, not inner qualities: handsome, wealthy, of good family, well-educated, with manners, a prestigious job... If a candidate for a husband does not match at least one of the points, then deregistered: Charlotte in the series disconnects right in the store, because the man chose the wrong set...
Therefore, the task of "Charlotte": grow up and learn to accept the person the way he is. Love not for something, but just the love of a man not to demand, and to accept with gratitude.
Here is Charlotte in the series gained its love only when it's done this inner transformation. Her choice was diametrically opposite template ideal: an ordinary lawyer, overweight and balding, but with a terrific sense of humor, caring, able to love. But it is in accordance with his psycho begins to demand: "I've done for you - marry me! " He leaves and comes back only when she says, "I don't care - you marry me or not. I just want to be with you".
About this psycho and about the lesson he must learn, tell tales with the following plot. The king in anger gives daughter is the proud Princess for the traveler (or the swineherd, blacksmith). Resigned to their fate, she suddenly realizes that she loves her husband-a commoner - and at this moment he turns the ruler of the neighboring Kingdom... the fairy Tale is a lie, but it hint: "Charlotte" we should not wait for Prince charming, but to see the good that is in a real man, then he will become for her the only...
Other well-known film related to this psycho: the heroine of "Cruel romance" and "Roman holiday".
Samantha
The opposite of "Charlotte" - seductress, femme fatale. Attracts the attention of men sexy clothes, fluids that do depict cannot - they are either there or not.
Strengths: emancipation, self-confidence, the ability to look at life in the raw, to call things by their names, knowing what she wants, and ability to achieve goals.
Cons: closed heart, that is, the failure to establish cordial relationship, the so-called entomophobia - and there's a distrust of men. It is connected with the story of Samantha.
It is said that a cynic is a tired romantic. Today's "Samantha" can come out of yesterday's "Charlotte", if that is wounded in heart and disappointed in everything and everyone. From one extreme (full trust), she will go into another (lack of trust).
To form a "Samantha" may her father, if feels for her unconscious intestine attraction. Especially often it happens in families where the husband is sexually unsatisfied. In this case, it is hidden seduces daughter, thus relieving the tension. For example, "not noticing" that "girl time", continues to physically caress her through conversation with her, as it was in childhood. So, one of my client remembered how his father tried to log in bath when she was naked, with the words: "I bathed you in childhood that I have not seen! " A client at that time was already studying at the Institute...
Also father in a joint TV viewing to let comments that her daughter is not proper to hear from the father: "Wow! What buffer! " Or all of the qualities daughter constantly emphasize sexuality: "her guys are crazy! "
But "Samantha" can be formed and in adulthood, if they will feel betrayed by the man. Well, as if Tatiana was offended by Onegin and went to Paris to make a career courtesan... a Similar thing happened with the movie Samantha: once it threw the man she loved, and since then she's afraid of a serious relationship.
Task "Samantha": to learn to trust, to open the heart to relations. It happened with the heroine of the series. Falls in love with her a young man who becomes a loyal friend.
Other cinematographic image, vividly representing this psycho: the heroine of "Basic instinct".
Miranda
If the previous two psychotype live relationship ("Charlotte" romantic, "Samantha" - sexual), whereas for women-"Miranda" in the first place put to work.
And this psycho, and actually the movie Miranda bad relationship with her mother. Namely, in contact with the mother develop our emotions. So feelings "Miranda" closed, and she lives her head. This is a plus and minus. It is reasonable, rational, responsible, and disciplined. But at the same time afraid of feelings - their own and others, runs and underestimates herself as a woman (in one episode Miranda is surprised: "On me old t-shirt, and he called me attractive! ").
"Miranda" is distinguished business or sports style clothing. Outwardly, it does not emphasizes her femininity - on the contrary, tries to hide it, becoming asexual or masculine: Trouser suit, tie...
This psycho form a cold, demanding parents. "Miranda" is often unwanted child, which is perceived as a hindrance. Often the family waited for the boy and was disappointed by the appearance of the girls. Parents are not adopted daughter, gave no warmth, no saw her little woman. If they paid her attention, it was about education, sections... And they demanded the daughter of success: medal, diploma... of Course, the daughter tried to meet their expectations, in order to even so get a little love. Therefore, and in adulthood "Miranda" continues the race for achievement, often reaching a career high, so it compensates for the lack of love...
As the rejected daughter, Miranda and personal life constantly or reject a man, or repels it. Her heart is closed, and feelings of other people it also does not allow. Sentimentality men is perceived as weakness.
Task "Miranda" - to reveal their feelings, to learn to listen to your heart and to trust him, allow yourself to Express feelings. So Miranda in the series finds love for a long time, she suffers from unrequited (as it seems) love, trying to replace the emotional connection that food, serials... Finally, unable to bear impulsive recognised in love and learns that she, too, loved...
Who sees himself "Miranda"? Yes anyone - often such women announce the institution of marriage "a relic of the past" and abandon the family. Or their choice - a kind of "business partner", with which it is comfortable to go through life (for example, to open a family business), and it's as cold as she was. In fact, she needs to "our boy", the host, warm-hearted, undemanding. The man aimed at a family instead of a career. It helps "Miranda" to get rid of excessive demands and open heart.
In foreign cinema this psycho is also presented by way of Sandra Bullock in the movie "Miss Congeniality". Domestic analogue heroine "of the novel Service".
Carrie
It is reflective, analytical, has a deep Outlook on life, sometimes paradoxical. This is its strength and weakness at the same time: she is able to look deep into things, but sometimes complicates your life. She needs to learn to take life easier and sometimes just to enjoy, not thinking at all.
Attractive, intelligent, socially successful, this woman's personal life is in the eternal search she or one or partners often replace each other. This is due to her father and childhood. Maybe the little girl grew up without a dad, or relationship with him was broken: the father, for some reason not adopted daughter. For example, he could win back her resentment at his wife, especially when she looks like a mom (to vent aggression on the child unconsciously safer than a partner).
"Carrie" all the time is not enough male attention, she really wants to find love but chooses the "wrong" partner, and the relationship cannot be built because there is no healthy scenario family. Unconsciously she is looking for her father, she may like men older than her, held, but denying it. Often she idealizes the man, and then is disappointed and suffering.
The task of "Carrie" - the focus is not on finding the perfect partner, and to understand their true desires and accept yourself, love. And then the relationship with a man normalized. This is what is happening: at the end of the series Carrie finally gets confused - it is in a foreign country, without friends, with a man, which no longer sure... She even loses mascot - chain with his name. Such is the symbolic loss of self in all senses. And finding chain, realizing what she wants, Carrie finds a mate to her comes her man of dreams"...
"Carrie" in the domestic film - heroine of the film "waiting for a miracle".
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